Love, Lust, and Laughter

Love Lust And Laughter - 02.10.15

THE OTHER WOMAN – she might be history’s most reviled female, or the most misunderstood.  Dr. Ginger Swanson’s research helps us understand the dynamics of the triadic relationship from the other woman’s point of view.  (www.GingerSwanson.com)  Dr. Ginger’s motivation and inspiration to delve into this topic was from her personal experience as the other woman. The research helped with her own healing, opening the floodgates of compassion for anyone involved. She explored The Other Woman through 100 years of film…deception, the Hays Code, Forbidden Hollywood Films.  Dr. Diana and Dr. Ginger also discussed Sabina Spielrein who was the other woman in Carl Jung’s life – and Anais Nin, a very sexual woman in Henry Miller’s life. Listen to this program for fascinating information – perhaps leading to a more enlightened point of view!

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 02.03.15

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and as the biggest romantic holiday of the year, it can create pressure and expectations on a couple to achieve the best sex ever. The timing is right:  Dr. Dudley Danoff, M.D. returned to the program with his wisdom and wit! His book “PENIS POWER – The Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health” (www.PenisPowerBook.com) addresses boredom, habituation – when sex becomes a chore. What about the Coolidge Effect? What is the Hard Dick Syndrome (where fear and performance anxiety are present)? Dr. Diana and Dr. Danoff discussed unpleasant aspects of sex including an unresponsive partner. It may be that if you’re in your head, you’re not in your body. Or, as Perls said, “Lose your mind and come to your senses!” When the Problem is Your Heart, anger and resentment need to be dealt with first, and then the Spice of Lifecan be enjoyed – weekends away, and realizing that sex does not have to have a beginning, a middle, and an end. Indeed, Sex is Play! In a survey of more than five hundred men about what made a woman a great lover, do you know what made the top of the list? ENTHUSIASM. You’ll want to hear this program for its enthusiasm and varied sexual information!

Love Lust And Laughter - 01.20.15

Bradley Coates, Esq. returned to the program. His book “Divorce with Decency” is now in its 4th Edition. This is a book that is an all-encompassing survey of love, marriage, and romantic relationships. Brad is unlike the vast majority of divorce attorneys because he lectures internationally on Marriage Preservation Pointers, also the subject of this program.  What are the ingredients for a healthy and lasting relationship? Bradley Coates and Dr. Diana discussed the basic nature of conflict, romantic illusions, different gender styles, mental and sexual differences.  They expanded on the “Surprising (And Scientifically Proven) Things That Lead to a Lasting Marriage” from the Huffington Post. Please listen – there is lots of useful information for anyone who is in a partnership – or wants one. 

Love Lust And Laughter - 01.06.15

Sheri Winston, author of “Succulent Sex Craft,” and her partner Carl Frankel, author of “Secrets of the Sex Masters,” rejoined the program – getting 2015 off to a sexy, informative start!  Their Valentine’s two-day workshop Becoming an Erotic Virtuoso offers an intensive for both singles and partners. Energy and anatomy is an amazing combination! They will discuss the “Secrets of the Sexual Body,” and the “Secrets of Sexual Energy” – as we did on this program. Please listen to his show – and go to their websitewww.IntimateArtsCenter.com for more information.

Love Lust And Laughter - 12.16.14

Dr. Dudley Danoff, world renowned urologist, founder and President of Cedars-Sinai Tower Urology in Los Angeles, returned to the program to further unzip the secrets of male sexual health. His book PENIS POWER – The Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health – www.PenisPowerBook.com – is empowering for men and their partners!  For this program, Dr. Danoff and Dr. Diana focused on the Low-T (testosterone) debate and E.D. (erectile dysfunction). We hear a lot about low-T. Is Big Pharma selling a real cure or one that is not needed? A skeptical and medical discussion followed: sales of testosterone therapies jumped from $324 million to $2 billion is 2012. Is there a natural T. decline with aging? What about health issues? (The bigger the belly, the lower the T. levels, for example.) E.D. affects roughly half of Americans over 60. There are very real roles for nitric oxide and exercise. How can a female partner help with performance and confidence issues? Dr. Danoff offered information about the medical and emotional causes of impotence, offering practical solutions. Please listen to the archived program. You won’t want to miss this show!   

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 12.09.14

Carl Frankel is a writer, entrepreneur and the managing director of Sheri Winston’s Center for the Intimate Arts. Dr. Diana and Carl discussed one of his books “Love and the More Perfect Union.” In this book Carl creatively combines established principles of relationship happiness with original and useful maps and models. His acronym for intimate relationships is A-C-E for autonomy, connection and equity. Do you like yourself when you’re not around your partner? If you can bring your whole, imperfect human self to the relationship and feel safe, seen, heard and known, those are good indications you’re in the right place. What is the Continuum of Connection and how does it affect relationships?  What are some of the main sources of relationship unhappiness?  These questions and more were discussed. Carl (www.CarlFrankel.com) will return to this program January 27, 2015. Please tune-in for more fascinating talk!

Love Lust And Laughter - 11.26.14

It’s that time of year again, when Americans baste turkeys, bake pies, and give thanks. Do you have an attitude of gratitude? My guest Dr. Richard Wagner certainly does! A former Catholic Priest and current sexologist, his views are spiritual, wise, and extremely insightful. Last year on November 5th and the 12th, we discussed his book The Amateur’s Guide to Death and Dying: Enhancing the End of Life. (Please visit the archives to hear these shows.) His more recent book is The Gospel of Kink. First we discussed the rituals for love – where a heart-felt “thank you” can be more meaningful than “I love you.” It very likely this will raise the other up – and get us out of our egos at the same time. Many relationships die from emotional undernourishment. People forget to say what they value and appreciate about their partner. Speak up! It creates good feelings, which draws us closer. The second part of the program explored BDSM aftercare. It turns out that BDSM folks prioritize sex, make time for it, accept their sexuality, and communicate openly with their partner. Dr. Wagner discusses power play where partners talk clearly about sexual parameters, limits, safe words and the like. The aftercare piece is when the partners can embrace and say thank you…It can be the transition from the personality in the scene to the day-to-day personality. There is so much more!  Please listen. Happy Thanksgiving!

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 11/18/14

Bradley Coates, Esq., (www.CoatesandFrey.com) returned to the program. He is the author of “DIVORCE with DECENCY” – 4TH Edition. The focus of the show was a question in this book: IS MARRIAGE DEAD?  Every day in June about 13,000 American couples say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship of joy and love; except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. Brad Coates, heading up Hawaii’s largest divorce law firm, knows that the latter is true.  The stats, enumerated in his book are alarming: the 2010 Census revealed that married couples represented only 48% of all households. Furthermore, 2/3rds of women file for divorce, dissatisfied with having to assume too much of the relationship responsibility – and more. Dr. Diana and Brad also discussed the Internet’s connectedness craze – as well as porn. Relationships are truly affected by these modern trends. January 20, 2015 Brad will return to the show so that we can discuss the ingredients of a healthy and lasting relationship.

Love Lust And Laughter - 11/11/14

FEMALE ORGASMS – they feel great, help you lose weight, are good for your health, and are free! Joan Price – www.JoanPrice.com – writes about this, among other sexual matters – in her books “Better Than I Expected – Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty,”  and “Naked at Our Age – Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex.”  Dr. Diana and Joan discussed orgasms at any age,  and the importance of practice – with oneself and with a partner. The more orgasms you have, the more orgasms you’re likely to have in the future! “The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.” – Wilhelm Reich.  Dr. Reich’s idea led us into the center of letting go, possible fears, negative body image, and more. Joan Price’s idea of tracking the tingle, breathing, using fantasy, and sex toys were all examined. We need to move beyond compartmentalizing our sexual selves – reflected in Anna Freud’s observation, “Sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are…”   Orgasms help a lot with feeling sexiness in your body, mind, and spirit – so that our sexuality is more robust!

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 11/04/14

Your sexual self – the unique blend of attitude, experience, and sensuality you bring to bed – is never fixed. Lynn Brown Rosenberg really knows about this concept because she wrote a memoir “My Sexual Awakening at 70” – www.LynnBrownRosenberg.com . Her mother and father were sexually repressed – and  passed along lots of sex negative messages. Emotional attachment in the family of origin establishes not only the ability to achieve a sense of connection but a degree of security in later relationships. Lynn overcame lots and has had many sexual adventures and personal insights as a result. She learned how to re-invent herself and powerful orgasms were a delightful by-product!