Love, Lust, and Laughter

Love Lust And Laughter - 03.24.15

Carl Frankel is a writer, entrepreneur and managing director of Sheri Winston’s Intimate Arts Center (www.IntimateArtsCenter.com). Dr. Diana and Carl discussed one of his books “Secrets of the Sex Masters” and specifically his chapter on ENERGY SEX with Reid Mihalko. To quote from their chapter: “…when you make sex more interesting, you make life more interesting…energy sex is magical in the sense that it’s not easily explained by our rational mind…It’s literally a wonderful experience, as in – full of wonder.” Positivity is important; indeed, 40% of our happiness is in our control. You create love – it is not a state. Energy (heart emotions) precedes anatomy. “Peaking” is an exercise Carl and his partner Sheri do: it’s a “glad game”(based on a 1913 book about Polyanna) where they each find the positive emotional and heart energy. For them these are Positivity Games: micro-moments of positivity resonance. Another side benefit of energy sex: It’s a training ground for great habits and can make you more self-confident and open-minded. Energy sex can also make you a happier, better person!

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 02.24.15

Dr. Patti Britton, a nationally board-certified clinical sexologist and world renown sex coach, is the author of hundreds of articles and four amazing books. (www.DrPattiBritton.com).  Dr. Robert Dunlap is a seasoned media expert, with appearances in over 400 commercials, and in print, film and television. He is also the filmmaker of “Beyond Vanilla” and “Xaviera Hollander: The Happy Hooker.” As a clinical sexologist with a specialization in BDSM/kink and fetish populations, he and his partner Dr. Patti were perfectly poised to discuss “Fifty Shades of Grey.” Because they were so disappointed in the film, for them it was retitled “Fifty Shades of Lame.” The Doctors Diana, Patti and Robert discussed the film and its possible (dangerous) sexual ramifications. Dr. Patti & Robert continue to run SAR’s in this country and internationally – with the next one being held in Poland. (www.SexCoachU.com) Their weekly radio show is called The Boom Doctors (www.TheBoomDoctors.com). No matter your age, they serve as role models for sex-positivity, sexual empowerment, sexual health and sexual success. Dr. Patti’s credo is “Celebrate your sexual self!” Indeed, that’s what “Love, Lust, and Laughter” is all about! 

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 02.10.15

THE OTHER WOMAN – she might be history’s most reviled female, or the most misunderstood.  Dr. Ginger Swanson’s research helps us understand the dynamics of the triadic relationship from the other woman’s point of view.  (www.GingerSwanson.com)  Dr. Ginger’s motivation and inspiration to delve into this topic was from her personal experience as the other woman. The research helped with her own healing, opening the floodgates of compassion for anyone involved. She explored The Other Woman through 100 years of film…deception, the Hays Code, Forbidden Hollywood Films.  Dr. Diana and Dr. Ginger also discussed Sabina Spielrein who was the other woman in Carl Jung’s life – and Anais Nin, a very sexual woman in Henry Miller’s life. Listen to this program for fascinating information – perhaps leading to a more enlightened point of view!

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 02.03.15

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and as the biggest romantic holiday of the year, it can create pressure and expectations on a couple to achieve the best sex ever. The timing is right:  Dr. Dudley Danoff, M.D. returned to the program with his wisdom and wit! His book “PENIS POWER – The Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health” (www.PenisPowerBook.com) addresses boredom, habituation – when sex becomes a chore. What about the Coolidge Effect? What is the Hard Dick Syndrome (where fear and performance anxiety are present)? Dr. Diana and Dr. Danoff discussed unpleasant aspects of sex including an unresponsive partner. It may be that if you’re in your head, you’re not in your body. Or, as Perls said, “Lose your mind and come to your senses!” When the Problem is Your Heart, anger and resentment need to be dealt with first, and then the Spice of Lifecan be enjoyed – weekends away, and realizing that sex does not have to have a beginning, a middle, and an end. Indeed, Sex is Play! In a survey of more than five hundred men about what made a woman a great lover, do you know what made the top of the list? ENTHUSIASM. You’ll want to hear this program for its enthusiasm and varied sexual information!

Love Lust And Laughter - 01.20.15

Bradley Coates, Esq. returned to the program. His book “Divorce with Decency” is now in its 4th Edition. This is a book that is an all-encompassing survey of love, marriage, and romantic relationships. Brad is unlike the vast majority of divorce attorneys because he lectures internationally on Marriage Preservation Pointers, also the subject of this program.  What are the ingredients for a healthy and lasting relationship? Bradley Coates and Dr. Diana discussed the basic nature of conflict, romantic illusions, different gender styles, mental and sexual differences.  They expanded on the “Surprising (And Scientifically Proven) Things That Lead to a Lasting Marriage” from the Huffington Post. Please listen – there is lots of useful information for anyone who is in a partnership – or wants one. 

Love Lust And Laughter - 01.06.15

Sheri Winston, author of “Succulent Sex Craft,” and her partner Carl Frankel, author of “Secrets of the Sex Masters,” rejoined the program – getting 2015 off to a sexy, informative start!  Their Valentine’s two-day workshop Becoming an Erotic Virtuoso offers an intensive for both singles and partners. Energy and anatomy is an amazing combination! They will discuss the “Secrets of the Sexual Body,” and the “Secrets of Sexual Energy” – as we did on this program. Please listen to his show – and go to their websitewww.IntimateArtsCenter.com for more information.

Love Lust And Laughter - 12.16.14

Dr. Dudley Danoff, world renowned urologist, founder and President of Cedars-Sinai Tower Urology in Los Angeles, returned to the program to further unzip the secrets of male sexual health. His book PENIS POWER – The Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health – www.PenisPowerBook.com – is empowering for men and their partners!  For this program, Dr. Danoff and Dr. Diana focused on the Low-T (testosterone) debate and E.D. (erectile dysfunction). We hear a lot about low-T. Is Big Pharma selling a real cure or one that is not needed? A skeptical and medical discussion followed: sales of testosterone therapies jumped from $324 million to $2 billion is 2012. Is there a natural T. decline with aging? What about health issues? (The bigger the belly, the lower the T. levels, for example.) E.D. affects roughly half of Americans over 60. There are very real roles for nitric oxide and exercise. How can a female partner help with performance and confidence issues? Dr. Danoff offered information about the medical and emotional causes of impotence, offering practical solutions. Please listen to the archived program. You won’t want to miss this show!   

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 12.09.14

Carl Frankel is a writer, entrepreneur and the managing director of Sheri Winston’s Center for the Intimate Arts. Dr. Diana and Carl discussed one of his books “Love and the More Perfect Union.” In this book Carl creatively combines established principles of relationship happiness with original and useful maps and models. His acronym for intimate relationships is A-C-E for autonomy, connection and equity. Do you like yourself when you’re not around your partner? If you can bring your whole, imperfect human self to the relationship and feel safe, seen, heard and known, those are good indications you’re in the right place. What is the Continuum of Connection and how does it affect relationships?  What are some of the main sources of relationship unhappiness?  These questions and more were discussed. Carl (www.CarlFrankel.com) will return to this program January 27, 2015. Please tune-in for more fascinating talk!

Love Lust And Laughter - 11.26.14

It’s that time of year again, when Americans baste turkeys, bake pies, and give thanks. Do you have an attitude of gratitude? My guest Dr. Richard Wagner certainly does! A former Catholic Priest and current sexologist, his views are spiritual, wise, and extremely insightful. Last year on November 5th and the 12th, we discussed his book The Amateur’s Guide to Death and Dying: Enhancing the End of Life. (Please visit the archives to hear these shows.) His more recent book is The Gospel of Kink. First we discussed the rituals for love – where a heart-felt “thank you” can be more meaningful than “I love you.” It very likely this will raise the other up – and get us out of our egos at the same time. Many relationships die from emotional undernourishment. People forget to say what they value and appreciate about their partner. Speak up! It creates good feelings, which draws us closer. The second part of the program explored BDSM aftercare. It turns out that BDSM folks prioritize sex, make time for it, accept their sexuality, and communicate openly with their partner. Dr. Wagner discusses power play where partners talk clearly about sexual parameters, limits, safe words and the like. The aftercare piece is when the partners can embrace and say thank you…It can be the transition from the personality in the scene to the day-to-day personality. There is so much more!  Please listen. Happy Thanksgiving!

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 11/18/14

Bradley Coates, Esq., (www.CoatesandFrey.com) returned to the program. He is the author of “DIVORCE with DECENCY” – 4TH Edition. The focus of the show was a question in this book: IS MARRIAGE DEAD?  Every day in June about 13,000 American couples say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship of joy and love; except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. Brad Coates, heading up Hawaii’s largest divorce law firm, knows that the latter is true.  The stats, enumerated in his book are alarming: the 2010 Census revealed that married couples represented only 48% of all households. Furthermore, 2/3rds of women file for divorce, dissatisfied with having to assume too much of the relationship responsibility – and more. Dr. Diana and Brad also discussed the Internet’s connectedness craze – as well as porn. Relationships are truly affected by these modern trends. January 20, 2015 Brad will return to the show so that we can discuss the ingredients of a healthy and lasting relationship.