Love, Lust, and Laughter

Love Lust And Laughter - 05.30.17

Veronica Monet, a relationship and sexuality coach – www.TheShameFreeZone.com – returned to the program. Dr. Diana and Veronica explored codependency and body shame in more depth – having touched on these subjects May 9^th. There are common misunderstandings about codependency; actually, it is more than being needy, dependent. The codependent patterns may include people pleasing and being a control freak. Future codependents naturally feel comfortable in relationships in which their needs are secondary or ignored, while feeling compelled to take care of someone else. Consequently, they will gravitate toward narcissistic or selfish people. To begin healing, assertive skills and healthy boundaries are necessary. Who am I? What do I need? Body shame was discussed in the second half of the show. How does a woman’s image of her body affect her sexuality – and her relationship with her partner? “Self-image neurosis” is often a way to avoid being sexual, an excuse not to abandon herself to another. She may lose her sensitivity to her partner and forgo pleasure. What to do about poor body image? A woman must cultivate the ability to appreciate her uniqueness, and start to see “imperfections” as endearing distinctions. Many people believe that self-hatred is a catalyst for change…What is necessary is to be deliberately  kind to oneself. Visit The Shame Free Zone because in about a week Veronica’s formula for Your Guide to Exquisite Partnership will be posted.  

Love Lust And Laughter - 05.16.17

Dr. Jen Martin (www.drjen.net) interviewed Dr. Diana about low sexual desire, its prevalence, and the common reasons for it. Actually, it was a conversation between the two docs. What to do if you are the partner with lower sexual desire? How does it impact the partner with higher desire? What about the cultural conditioning on sexual desire?  All of these topics and more were discussed. Listen in because there is much contradiction and confusion around these topics.

Love Lust And Laughter - 05.09.17

Veronica Monet, a relationship and sexuality coach – www.TheShameFreeZone.com – returned to the show. This time she and Dr. Diana spoke about Veronica’s focus in her workshops: Claiming your Erotic Birthright as a Woman. The topics included co-dependency (people-pleasing and control freaks); body image/body shame (very common…with lots of  on-the-air examples); and, the divine feminine (balancing masculine and feminine energies…the life energy that flows through the body and its energy centers. Channeling this energy and riding it to maximum pleasure is a worthwhile goal!). This in an inspiring, provocative program. Please tune in!

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 05.02.17

Jill Angelo, Genneve CEO (www.Genneve.com), interviewed Dr. Diana on the subject of Aging, Sexuality and Menopause. Jill started Genneve because she was committed to creating quality products and wanted to foster a community where women can find information, conversation, and inspiration. This show contributed to those goals! A woman’s lack of interest can be both physically and emotionally inspired. Dr. Diana spoke of solutions; she knows about them personally and professionally. BHRT (Bio-identical Hormone Replacement Therapy) can help, so can talk therapy, and so can quality products like those produced at Genneve. Jill asked Dr. Diana how she addresses women who ask, “Is this it? Am I done? Is my life as a sexual being finished?” There was also a discussion about how sex can be very good for our health! And, what about sexual pain and body-image problems? These concerns – and more – were explored. Dr. Diana wants to see her clients restore emotional intimacy and reach their full sexual potential…Indeed, sex matters! Genneve’s products can help a lot: go to their website, or to AMAZON, or to Walgreens.com. The goal is to treat the whole woman and the relationship!

Love Lust And Laughter - 04.25.17

Living entails experiencing the pain of loss – both our own and of those we care about. Continuing to live also means finding ways to go on. Dr. Diana and Dr. Lori Buckley (www.DrLoriBuckley.com) discussed relationship and life transitions – personally and clinically. Both docs have had partners/husbands who have died. Dr. Lori observed that either you fall into the void or you find meaning. A metaphor for life after loss is both powerful and apt: Think of it as a scattered jigsaw puzzle, where the pieces of one’s former life have been scattered and now must be reconfigured in a new way. Even smaller stressors can take their toll. The vast majority of us will be faced with one or more major traumatic stressors during a lifetime. Resilience can help with that. Dr Lori likes to focus “above the line” with more positive thoughts, mindfulness, and embracing change. Positivity expands awareness, begetting more positivity – more noticing, more engagement, more appreciation, and more trust. Little actions help build a reservoir of goodwill as we grieve, and keep our ongoing relationships replenished. This is an inspirational program!  

Love Lust And Laughter - 04.18.17

There’s a reason fairy tale’s always end in marriage. It’s because nobody wants to see what comes after…it may be too grim. Brad Coates (www.CoatesandFrey.com) knows much about marriageand divorce, and is the author of “DIVORCE with DECENCY” – soon to be  in its Fifth Edition. Dr. Diana and Brad reviewed some of the factoids in his book, including, “Men are usually the first to say ‘I love you.’”  Perhaps this is because they are more romantic and want more non-sexual affection, stereotypes aside. “One-half of all divorces happen by year seven of the marriage”; indeed, the “seven-year itch.” There are anthropological reasons at play. “Marital satisfaction does increase with each successive year…once you have made it past the first twenty-five years.”  John Gottman, one of the nation’s leading marriage researchers, reports that older married couples tend to behave like younger married couples outside of the bedroom – with a sense of kindness. We discussed many other aspects of Brad’s book, a book that can save your marriage! Tune in to discover the details!

Love Lust And Laughter - 03.28.17

Many older people are not seen as sexual beings. Joan Price is on a mission to dispel this myth! She returned this week for Part 2. In her books, talks, and webinars she suggests how folks can reclaim their sexuality. Joan (www.JoanPrice.com) has written “The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50,” “Better Than I Expected – Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty,” “Naked at Our Age,”  and “Ageless Erotica.”  Orgasms are good for your health – whether generated alone or with a partner. “The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.” – Wilhelm Reich. Joan’s idea of tracking the tingle, breathing, using fantasy, and sex toys were all explored. We also discussed Dating while Older (DWO) -  a Chapter in one of her books. This is a must read! The entire show is apt to inspire…no matter your age!

Love Lust And Laughter - 03.21.17

Joan Price has pulled senior sex out from under the covers, showing seniors – as well as those who are younger – that older folks don’t need to give up on their sexuality just because their bodies are older. Joan is a senior sexpert and has been dubbed a “wrinkly sex kitten”! Please go to www.JoanPrice.com, and to sign up for her newsletter www.eepurl.com/cx2Nab. Her books are: “The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50 – How to Maintain or Regain – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life,” “Better Than I Expected – Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty,” “Naked at Our Age – Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex, and “Ageless Erotica,”  a book she edited. The latter is very sexy, very steamy! Dr. Diana and Joan explored why so many older people give up on sex. And, how do people stay sexual when they don’t have a partner? What about quick and easy tips for arousal – whether partnered or alone? Going on a journey of exploration is a good thing; indeed, what might work better? The health benefits of sexuality – including dealing with stress – were also discussed. There is so much more in the program…Please listen, no matter your age!

Love Lust And Laughter - 03.07.17

Have you heard? More than just a feeling, LOVE is action. Two men taking action are Dr. Mitchell Tepper (www.DrMitchellTepper.com) and Dr. Mark Schoen (www.SexSmartFilms.com). Their labor of love is a collaborative documentary “Making Love after Making War” – a work still in progress. To help with the effort, please go to www.LoveAfterWar.org to sign up for the newsletter and to consider donating. Our vets are heroes, sometimes returning with catastrophic injuries resulting in PTSD, and intimacy/sexual problems – issues that are often ignored. Sadly, the suicide rate is huge. Our vets need counseling, they need more information. EmotionaI, sexual intimacy, and conceiving a child are often difficulties facing couples after war. We need to team up to help our injured vets rediscover life filled with passion, purpose, and pleasure!   

Love Lust And Laughter - 02.21.17

Sexuality and disabilities are not addressed or explored enough. Dr. Mitchell Tepper (www.DrMitchellTepper.com) reports that he “dove head first into the field” because of a diving accident years ago, breaking his neck. Since then he has become an internationally recognized sexuality educator, disability expert, and pioneer in spinal cord research and orgasm. His book “Regain that Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery” reveals that you don’t have to break your neck to be a great lover but you can learn a lot from someone who has. He has identified the importance of trust, safety, and connectedness. Pleasure is not merely a physical sensation, orgasm does not just happen between your legs, intimate connection fuels desire, and love is an action not a feeling. Dr. Mitch does coaching via the phone or skype in all parts of the world – not only for vets but for men and women who were born with or acquired disabilities. His contact information and ways to buy his book are on his website. Furthermore, by going to www.SexSmartFilms.com you can see him in other videos demonstrating tantra, ED, facilitated sex, and using touch via pleasure maps. In today’s program, there is much information – even for those of us who are able-bodied! The March 7^th show will explore in more depth “Making Love after Making War.” Please tune-in!