Archive for November 2016

For many sex becomes less like the fourth of July and more like Thanksgiving. Veronica Monet returned to the program to help keep those fireworks popping! She is a Relationship Coach – www.TheShameFreeZone.com – but from 1989 to 2004 she was a high end escort who catered to wealthy businessmen. Dr. Diana and Veronica discussed what she learned about men while working as an escort; for example, men wanted to feel special, often preferring conversation to sexual activities. Men do want more cuddling, kissing, and physical affection. Both men and women want love and sex. Some men pretend to be macho, but under the right conditions both men and women admit to be more complex than the stereotypes would have it. Tune-in for a provocative discussion!

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In these sex-negative times, being a sexologist leads to a certain amount of frustration, sadness, and anger. The remedy, and my perfect guest is Veronica Monet! She is an outspoken advocate for sexual self-determination – www.TheShameFreeZone.com – and has been a guest on many major media including CNN, FOX News and the New York Times. Her coaching clients benefit from a potent combination of her training as a Certified Sexologist and Anger Specialist. Her deep empathy comes from much personal work on her own sexual abuse. Dr. Diana and Veronica discussed the challenges of celebrating sexuality in the face of having experienced sexual harassment, abuse, and even rape. What steps can sexual abuse survivors take to feel safe while a self-admitted sexual predator is in the White House? In our culture, sexual pleasure is still a dangerous commodity with dangerous overtones. It might be the first thing we toss overboard during life’s various storms. We might forget that it’s as much a part of us as the need to eat and breathe. Veronica has a message of hope for those who may feel their sexual freedoms are at risk.  

 

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Nikki Leigh, a certified Master Sexpert and Love Coach, guested for Part 2. This time we spoke of Learning to Love Yourself (www.readyforloveradio.com). Preparing for the journey requires looking at the beliefs that are fueling obsessions – or, really, relationships to the self, families, and one’s life. Core beliefs like “I’m damaged; I don’t deserve this; love is not for me,” etc. suggest that people don’t really want to look. Too many believe that the way to get there is by judging and shaming and hating oneself. Nikki knows and teaches that the path from obsession to feelings to presence is not about healing  our “wounded child” or about feeling every bit of rage or grief we ever felt so that we can be happy. She offers an online course that will help: “Learn to Love, Accept, and Respect Yourself.” When you evoke curiosity and openness with a lack of judgement, you will align yourself with beauty and delight and love. Pleasure is a much better place to grow from!

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