Love, Lust, and Laughter

Love, Lust, Laughter - 12/04/13

Dr. Diana presided over a stellar panel consisting of Candida Royalle, pioneer filmmaker of female-friendly erotic movies; Nina Hartley, porn star and sex educator (“Sex is my subject, as artist, activist, scientist and healer”); and Richard Pacheco, an award-winning star from the Golden Age of Porn. All three have worked together, and all three have fascinating books – (Richard’s “HINDSIGHT” is especially hilarious)! The discussion was profound and entertaining, and we will do a Part 2. As we approach Thanksgiving, we are grateful for this program!

Love, Lust, and Laughter - Candida Royalle: Sex and Cancer - 12/03/13

Candida Royalle, aka Candice – www.CandidaRoyalle.com – returned to the program. The April 23rd archived program featured her erotic films from a female perspective. This show’s topic was SEXUALITY & CANCER, two words that some may think don’t go together. Dr. Diana and Candice discussed her personal experiences with cancer, and Rebecca, a caller, contributed to this intimate, informative conversation. John Wayne’s quote is appropriate: “Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway.” Many women wish their oncologists would ask, “How’s your sex life?” We discussed the sexual fallout of chemotherapy and other cancer treatments. Vaginal dryness, pain during intercourse, and a flatlined libido are common. New perspectives may emerge: stop wasting time, start living your life better, and give what you can – while you can – in all the relationships that matter. Also, creating a real relationship with yourself, sexual or otherwise, is a true gift to glean from your experience.

Love, Lust, and Laughter - Dr. Pepper Schwartz - 11/19/13

The very prolific (17 books under her belt) and wise Dr. Pepper Schwartz spoke about “The Normal Bar -- The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal about Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship.”  With her co-authors, she collected data from more than 70,000 people around the world. You may go to www.theNormalBar.com to contribute to the ongoing online survey. This is a fascinating book on women, men, sex, and love – a compendium offering data as well as superb advice. For example, did you know that among all couples who’ve been together 10 or more years, more than half say they longer hold hands? It’s never too late to start holding hands, and it can even help settle arguments! Sadly, or so we all thought, 33% of respondents said they rarely or never have sex. There are suggestions to jump-start a sexual relationship. It’s not surprising that “The Normal Bar” is already on the best seller list. Please listen to the show, and buy this enlightening book…Your relationship will benefit enormously!

Love, Lust, and Laughter - 11/12/13

Love Lust and Laughter - Richard Wagner - 11/05/13

Love Lust and Laughter - Howie Gordon - 10/29/13

Howie Gordon, a.k.a. Richard Pacheco, returned for Part 2. He and Dr. Diana discussed more in “HINDSIGHT.” Did his films educate men to please women? What kind of closure did he get as a result of the WORLD PORNOGRAPHY CONFERENCE – where Betty Dodson and Nina Hartley played significant roles?  Here is a part of his talk at this conference: “People were all uptight about sex, but there was no reason to be! We were like noble rogues in some divinely human struggle to make life in a body easier. It was important work! My generation tried to make lust respectable!” We discussed Howie’s life post-porn – including the documentary “After Porn Ends.” Howie and Nina have important messages here. At the end, we discussed a final chapter which looks at his 14-year-old first love, Sally. There was “forty-four years of foreplay.” Of this experience, Howie writes, “Life gave us a pass. We were the fourteen-year-old kids again. Only this time, we were not afraid of sexual pleasure. We had the benefit of knowledge and appreciation. There was no fear and there was no shame. There was consummation. There was completion.”  What a way to end this program!

Love, Lust, and Laughter - 10/22/13

Love, Lust, And Laughter - 10/15/13

Love Lust and Laughter - 7 Mega Trends of the New Millennium - 10/08/13

Bradley Coates, Esq. returned to the program. He is the author of the award-winning 4th Edition of “Divorce with Decency – The Complete How To Handbook and Survivor’s Guide to the Legal, Emotional, Economic, and Social Issues.”  The topic we discussed was the 7 Mega Trends of the New Millennium – which include the women’s movement, cohabitation, the impact of social media and the internet, the proliferation of porn, civil unions, “gray” divorces, and the possible “end of marriage.” Brad is articulate and has a sense of humor…He’ll be back for sure! Meantime, you can get his excellent book through AMAZON.

 

Love, Lust, And Laughter - Marc Gilmartin - 10/01/13

Marc Gilmartin spoke knowledgably about his specialization: working with adult men with sexual abuse histories, who may be erotically conflicted – often with problematic sexual behaviors. What does “out-of-control” sexual behavior look like? What can compulsive viewing of porn teach a man? How can he integrate this in a sexually healthy way with his partner? In the second half of the program, we discussed the clinical presentations of men versus women with sexual abuse histories. How are the genders typically different? Fortunately, Marc will return for Part 2 on October 15th! www.MarcGilmartin.com for more information.