Love, Lust, and Laughter

Love, Lust, and Laughter - Mark Twain meets Don Juan - 01/29/14

Howie Gordon, aka Richard Pacheco, is a delectable fusion: Mark Twain meets Don Juan – indeed, he has brains and balls! He and Dr. Diana discussed his memoir “HINDSIGHT: TRUE LOVE & MISCHIEF IN THE GOLDEN AGE OF PORN,” and one of his many outstanding movies “SENSUAL ESCAPE – An erotic journey into the senses.”  He and Nina Hartley starred in this Candida Royalle/ Gloria Leonard film. Many things set Howie apart as the porn actor Richard Pacheco…He was not the Big Dick star; instead he was capable of playing characters, often amusing ones with a twinkle. In fact, he’s a fine actor. And, he can and does open an underground world of sexual secrets! It helps that this man is in touch with his emotions, and can tell stories from a life of delicious excesses combined with soulful insights. If you buy his book, you’ll get the full story: www.BearManorMedia.com or on Amazon.

Love, Lust, Laughter - Dr. Robert Dunlap - 1/14/14

Dr. Robert Dunlap returned to the program, giving news from the WORLD CONGRESS of SEXOLOGY – the 21st Congress of World Sexual Health held in Brazil. A huge focus for this conference was brain science and sexuality. Here’s just one example: Why are men so ready to have sex? The preoptic area of the hypothalamus, the part of the brain that makes men and women feel turned on, is 2.5 times bigger in guys and contains twice as many cells. But women need to feel comfortable and safe before the hypothalamus sends out sexually ready signals. Another trend for the WAS conference was the increasing popularity of BDSM. Dr. Dunlap has chronicled the practice of BDSM, interviewing hundreds of fetishists for his 2001 film “Beyond Vanilla.” He spoke about how the practice demands strict rules of safety – and that play is negotiated all along the way. “Fifty Shades of Grey” has influenced the world in varying degrees. Men spend most of their lives being in control; so, it can be exciting to surrender to a woman who knows how to take charge. Dr. Diana and Dr. Robert also talked about why China is supporting polyamory – and the new studies in male circumcision. For more information go to www.SexCoachU.com and www.DrRobertDunlap.com.

Love, Lust, and Laughter - Dr. Lori Buckley- 1/7/14

Dr. Lori Buckley returned to the show for Part 2 (Part 1 was 12/17/13). Dr. Diana and Dr. Lori spoke about Chapter 10 in her book “21 Decisions for Great Sex & a Happy Relationship” namely: “TRY NEW STUFF.” How appropriate for the new year! What can we do better this year for our relationship and our sex lives? To quote Dr, Lori: “…to have a hot and happy sex life (we need) sexual creativity…adding variety and fun into your sex life.” Turning on your senses is also worthwhile in 2014! There are lots of fun action steps here! Please listen for great inspiration!

Love, Lust, and Laughter - 12/17/13

Dr. Lori Buckley is a licensed psychologist, an AASECT certified sex therapist, and a long-time friend and colleague of Dr. Diana’s. She and Dr. Lori discussed her recent book “21 Decisions for Great Sex & a Happy Relationship.”  This book is concise, articulate, and helpful with its “action steps.” The inspiration that got Dr. Lori going was Eleanor Roosevelt’s suggestion, “Do one thing a day that scares you. ” We spoke about decisions and questions to ask: Is this realistic? Can I commit to this for at least three months? Is there anything that will stop me from doing this? Decisions for great sex include cherishing your partner, having fun, talking more about sex. The book explains these subjects – and we elaborated. Please visit www.DrLoriBuckley.com for more information – including how to buy her amazing book! There will be a Part 2 early in 2014.

Love, Lust Laughter - 12/10/13

Love, Lust, Laughter - 12/04/13

Dr. Diana presided over a stellar panel consisting of Candida Royalle, pioneer filmmaker of female-friendly erotic movies; Nina Hartley, porn star and sex educator (“Sex is my subject, as artist, activist, scientist and healer”); and Richard Pacheco, an award-winning star from the Golden Age of Porn. All three have worked together, and all three have fascinating books – (Richard’s “HINDSIGHT” is especially hilarious)! The discussion was profound and entertaining, and we will do a Part 2. As we approach Thanksgiving, we are grateful for this program!

Love, Lust, and Laughter - Candida Royalle: Sex and Cancer - 12/03/13

Candida Royalle, aka Candice – www.CandidaRoyalle.com – returned to the program. The April 23rd archived program featured her erotic films from a female perspective. This show’s topic was SEXUALITY & CANCER, two words that some may think don’t go together. Dr. Diana and Candice discussed her personal experiences with cancer, and Rebecca, a caller, contributed to this intimate, informative conversation. John Wayne’s quote is appropriate: “Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway.” Many women wish their oncologists would ask, “How’s your sex life?” We discussed the sexual fallout of chemotherapy and other cancer treatments. Vaginal dryness, pain during intercourse, and a flatlined libido are common. New perspectives may emerge: stop wasting time, start living your life better, and give what you can – while you can – in all the relationships that matter. Also, creating a real relationship with yourself, sexual or otherwise, is a true gift to glean from your experience.

Love, Lust, and Laughter - Dr. Pepper Schwartz - 11/19/13

The very prolific (17 books under her belt) and wise Dr. Pepper Schwartz spoke about “The Normal Bar -- The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal about Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship.”  With her co-authors, she collected data from more than 70,000 people around the world. You may go to www.theNormalBar.com to contribute to the ongoing online survey. This is a fascinating book on women, men, sex, and love – a compendium offering data as well as superb advice. For example, did you know that among all couples who’ve been together 10 or more years, more than half say they longer hold hands? It’s never too late to start holding hands, and it can even help settle arguments! Sadly, or so we all thought, 33% of respondents said they rarely or never have sex. There are suggestions to jump-start a sexual relationship. It’s not surprising that “The Normal Bar” is already on the best seller list. Please listen to the show, and buy this enlightening book…Your relationship will benefit enormously!

Love, Lust, and Laughter - 11/12/13

Love Lust and Laughter - Richard Wagner - 11/05/13