Love, Lust, and Laughter

Love Lust And Laughter - 09.27.16

Sheri Winston has written Succulent Sex Craft – a book that can help supercharge your erotic life!  www.IntimateArtsCenter.com  Dr. Diana and Sheri discussed her upcoming online class Secrets of Partner Pleasure.  Skillful communication in the bedroom is necessary… and difficult for many. The types and levels of touch: nurturing, therapeutic, sensual, and sexual. Oxytocin is released during interpersonal touch – promoting a feeling of calmness, pleasantness, and mild euphoria. For greater partner pleasure and romance, “set and setting” is essential! Challenges, including anxiety, can arise… Sheri has suggestions for dealing with these, including relaxation exercises. Tune in for inspiration!

Love Lust And Laughter - 09.20.16

 Patricia Lorenz is known internationally for her inspirational writing – including 75 stories in the Chicken Soup for the Soul books (www.PatriciaLorenz.com). We discussed her most recent book “57 Steps to Paradise – Finding Love in Midlife and Beyond.” This program is intended for everyone looking for love – whatever your age, background, dating history, or sexual preferences. Patricia’s book will help you navigate the process. She provides a heap of wit and wisdom to help your make life-changing decisions. This is a woman who has cherished her struggles, making her strong and resilient. Patricia’s advice: Keep your options open and do it! Don’t give up. Listen for more inspiration!

 

Love Lust And Laughter - 09.13.16

Dr. Lori Buckley – www.DrLoriBuckley.com – returned to the program. Her book is “21 Decisions for Great Sex & A Happy Relationship,” available on AMAZON. For this show edition we did not talk about sex…This is unusual for us – as friends and colleagues! We spoke about loss: the ending of a relationship – whether through death, divorce, or the ending of a committed, romantic coupleship. Dr. Lori lost her partner Alan six months ago in a Thailand traffic accident. Dr. Diana’s late husband Charlie died a number of years ago of a heart attack – one that was totally unexpected.  Dr. Lori’s healing journey has been profound, transforming; what she knows for sure is “Cherish every moment!” Don’t just say Carpe diem, but declare Carpe vitam – seize the life! Both of us are now familiar with grief – personally and clinically. Leaning toward – not away – from the pain will help you heal. To lean toward the pain, when you are feeling bad, stop and allow yourself to feel the emotion by talking to someone or writing about it. Sadness makes you more rational, your thinking more concrete. Accepting sadness can, ironically , lower depression. While you never look for grief, it’s one of the hugest growing experiences you’ll ever have. It deepens you as a human being. Please listen to this show. Dr. Lori is especially articulate and passionate! You can benefit from the wisdom gleaned.

Love Lust And Laughter - 08.30.16

Sheri Winston is a celebrated sexuality teacher, an award-winning author and a medical professional who brings over two decades of experience as a certified nurse-midwife and gynecology practitioner. Her book “Succulent Sex Craft” is available on AMAZON; but, you’ll also want to check out her website www.IntimateArtsCenter.com. Sheri and Dr. Diana focused on solo-sex – and solo sex skills. While we avoided the word “masturbation,” we acknowledged that it is the primary form of sexual expression. It’s not just for kids or for those in between lovers or for old people who end up alone. Self-pleasuring is a way for all of us to learn about sexual response. Sexual skills are like any other skills; they’re not magically inherited, they have to be learned. Sheri has many tools, as well as many words of wisdom: “The ascent into self love celebrates your desire, hones your abilities and ultimately honors yourself.” Part 2 with Sheri will be on September 27th. Please turn in for both shows – for lots of stimulating information!

Love Lust And Laughter - 08.23.16

Dr. Dudley Danoff, MD, a world renowned urologist, returned to the program for the ninth time. His book is “The Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health – How to Stay Vital at Any Age” (www.theultimateguidetomenshealth.com). The main focus of this program was porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED). A growing number of young men are convinced that their sexual responses have been sabotaged because their (still developing) brains were virtually marinated in porn when they were teens. The result is often less arousal to sex with a real person. Porn is bad for sex. Besides ED, men can have hang-ups about penis size, can experience PE, ejaculatory difficulties, and have unrealistic expectations. In addition, girls are learning that women’s sexuality exists for the benefit of men; all the while, learning little about what brings them pleasure. A helpful website is www.YourBrainonPorn.com. Listen to this program – and learn a lot! Dr. Danoff is always a wealth of information.

 

Love Lust And Laughter – 08.09.16

What is Narcissism? It’s not ego or self-love; it’s self-loathing, envy, insecurity. Ross Rosenberg helped us unravel narcissism and closely related behaviors. He is considered an international expert in Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and codependency. His book “The Human Magnet Syndrome” (www.HumanMagnetSyndrome.com) has sold over 30,000 copies – and his second book “The Codependency Cure” is to be published next year (a “how to” to the “why” of his first book). Dr. Diana and Ross discussed typical features of NPD: grandiosity, entitlement, fantasies of unlimited success/power, lacking empathy and compassion. Donald Trump became a part of this discussion. Covert and malignant narcissism were compared . We also discussed living with a narcissist, what you can change, and should you stay or should you go. Tune-in for a most informative program!

 

 

Love Lust And Laughter – 08.02.16

What about male sexual desires and porn?  Brad Coates, author of “DIVORCE with DECENCY” 4TH Edition (www.CoatesandFrey.com), discussed this provocative subject with Dr. Diana. There is whole body sensuality vs porn’s genital focus: why is porn bad for sex? It ignores female erotic needs, and often causes male sexual problems. We also discussed healthy sexuality and seniors. There is a need to reestablish intimacy because often when a man is faced with ED, he’ll withdraw into silence, sometimes punctuated by angry outbursts. Intimacy involves opening yourself up emotionally. Men need to remember that sex is not all about his penis. This myth is an outgrowth of pornography, which is totally penis-focused. Great sex involves your whole body – it’s based on leisurely, playful, whole-body sensuality for the two of you!

 

Love Lust And Laughter – 07.19.16

What Do Men Really Want? There’s the stereotype, and there’s the reality. But the reality about what men want in women and from women is getting more complex by the minute. Men and their motives are evolving! Brad Coates is especially evolved – and the author of “DIVORCE with DECENCY” 4^th Edition – (www.CoatesandFrey.com). Brad and Dr. Diana, friends for some 17 years – discussed the physical and emotional make-up of a man, the economics and careers, and men’s passages through the life cycle. The differences in men’s and women’s brains plays an important role, of course. Both men and women want love and sex…Tune-in to hear about the complexities involved. Part 2, August 2^nd, will explore how men fare in relationships, romance, and sexuality.

Love Lust And Laughter – 07.12.16

Dr. Diana’s good friend and famous columnist April Masini (www.AskApril.com – where 26 thousand questions have been answered) had a very interactive discussion. Diana’s fiancé Bryan called in because he also contributed to the piece – especially  the “Synch Up” idea. This is where a skilled lover plugs into a woman’s breath and pelvic thrusts, following her lead. Listening to her vocalizations can be helpful because there may be a pattern. Bryan added that paying real attention to the woman’s pleasure pays off. His philosophy: Worship your woman and the Goddess will reward you! April asked Dr. Diana how she coaches guys who want more high-desire women. Women often need time to decompress (and feel safe) – so giving a massage first really works. It’ll be a turn-on for him to see her naked, and his caresses will release oxytocin. Later, put on some music and dance! Show appreciation: saying what you really value and appreciate about her. Also, paying attention works while actively listening. Pure, non-distracted attention is so seductive and very affirming! April also asked about ways to spice things up, avoiding the same-old, same-old. Engage all your senses – smell, hearing, touch, taste and sight. Light scented candles, play pulsating music, put fresh sheets on the bed, feed each other sensual foods, watch erotic films, wear sexy lingerie, dance, and smell your partner. Sensual sex can extend your pleasure! There’s lots more: tune-in for a most stimulating program, and read the article linked below.

April interviewed Diana. She had done this recently for a collaborative article  http://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa_100/126_love_secrets.html .

Love Lust And Laughter – 07.05.16

The dirty little secret of many long-term relationships is that intimacy is great, but sex is a chore. The program’s topic: SEXUALITY and AGING was explored by Dr. Diana and her guest Lou Paget (www.LouPaget.com). Lou is a Certified Sex Educator, an international bestselling author of five books, and has been called “…a one-woman sexual revival.” Recent research in the field of aging and sexuality is sparse. Even Dr. Diana’s research in this area with Walter Bortz, MD was in the early 90’s – later published in two medical journals. In this era of 40 million Americans, of all ages, being in sexless marriages, rampant low sexual desire and dysfunctions, it is time to better integrate sensual touch. The true indicator of a healthy long-term relationship is not how often your partner touches you, but how often your partner touches you in response to your touch. The stronger the reciprocity, the more likely someone is to report emotional intimacy. But, many older folks don’t have a partner. Lou and Diana talked about touch hunger. Many older retirement residences need to accommodate late-in-life romances with more privacy. And, therapeutic massage can be healing and pleasurable! As for intercourse, sex can be satisfying without it, and many learn to appreciate the rich range of experiences sex has to offer. There’s more, of course.  Tune in!